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Writing Your Own Vows



          Writing Your Own Vows


Your wedding or commitment ceremony is one of the most special and sacred events
in your life. Most couple’s  feel  their love is a truly unique bond between
the two of them that will never be experienced by others in quite the same way.

One way to honor and acknowledge your relationship is by creating a personalized
ceremony that reflects your beliefs, feelings and style as a couple. Writing your
own vows for the ceremony creates a deeply moving and intimate expression
of your feelings for one another.

Before you can effectively express your feelings, you’ll need to identify them.
It’s Important to talk to each other about your marriage, discussing your beliefs,
dreams, and expectations.

Take notes on this conversation and use it as the foundation for building your
own custom made vows. Once you identify the things that are the
most important to you, then you can decide how best to express them.

Here are some questions to get you started:
•   When and where did you first meet?
•   What was the state of your life before the two of you met?
•   At what point did you realize you were in love? Describe the feeling.
•   What inspires you about your loved one?
•   What life goals and dreams do you share?
•   What have you learned from each other?
•   What qualities make your love unique? What qualities will keep it strong?
•   How has your view of the world changed since you fell in love?
•   What do you most look forward to about life with this person?
•   What are some special moments in your relationship, either happy or sad, humorous
or profound?

IMPORTANT TIPS!

  • The vows themselves should only take two or three minutes to say to one another,    
    remember this is a public declaration of your commitment, not a private conversation
    between the two of you
  • Omit details that are too intimate or lengthy. Sincerity is the key, the words should come from
    the heart.
  • Decide whether on not the two of you will recite the same vows or different ones.
  • Incorporate your wedding guests into your vows by having them respond with their blessings
    and support
  • Read your vows out loud, which is a surprisingly effective way to catch errors, glitches, or
    awkward phrasing.
  • Additional thoughts on your commitment to marriage may be expressed in the main body of
    the ceremony through the use of special poems and prayers.